I understand that searching for a really good gift for your brother, dad, colleague, boyfriend, or husband is not easy. It’s so tempting to pick something from the numerous lists, compiled by well-known women sites and magazines. It’s also quite difficult to make the man confess about his wishes and usually you think thank he doesn’t want anything. But do men really already have everything they want/need? Of course, this is not true in most cases. We all have our wishlist.
We feel rather awkwardly and uncomfortable when receiving any gift. Usually, there are several main reasons why:
- we are Men and it’s Our responsibility to give presents. While receiving the gift we feel an inversion of the gendered roles here (i.e. the woman is an active contributor while the man is a passive recipient).
- despite our difficulties in expressing of own wishes, somewhere deep inside we expect to receive a surprising gift that we would really like, but most of the time this doesn’t happen
- consequently, we have to pretend that we like the gift. But if the man is not an actor, it is very hard for him.
And I’m here to help you avoid these situations as much as possible. Naturally, I am not able to read the wishlist of your man, but I can definitely say, that if you follow the rules mentioned below, you won’t see the disappointment in the eyes of your dad, boyfriend, brother, husband or colleague.
What men do NOT want as presents:
1. Sweet romantic stuff
Don’t get me wrong, men like romance. However, for us, romance is seen in different actions. All these photos, candles, pillows… We just do not need it.
2. Socks, deodorants, bathroom accessories
Do I really have to give the reasons? Forget about socks! Unless the receiver of the gift is your grandson.
3. Belts, wallets, ties
Boring and predictable. Moreover, men prefer to buy these things themselves. What’s more important, we’ll have to use it even if we don’t like it. Sad story.
4. DIY gifts (with only one exception)
We will surely appreciate your efforts. You may even surprise us. For a couple of hours. The next day your gift will be forgotten. Guaranteed. Exception – see p.9.
Your chances to buy him exactly what he wants are a little less, then chances to win a lottery. And even if you know his taste, then there is no surprise part.
What men DO want to see in presents:
What’s the point in a gift, if we cannot use it in our day-to-day life? Men love functional things because they are practical. We are not thrilled at all with things we can only look at.
It’s not a secret that men are just big boys. And they need toys) We love things with buttons, remote controls, flashing lights and so on. Furthermore – gadgets useful. That is why technology gift is the quickest way to a man’s heart.
We cannot escape it. Even those of us who insist they don’t care about status, are still aware of it, monitor it, and seek it. That is why, if your gift can be proudly demonstrated to friends, then it is a good gift.
Best present you cannot buy:
9. Gifts made by their children
Any man will be enormously proud of getting it. No amount of riches could buy a better present than that. So if you are thinking about presenting your dad a hand-made gift – go for it! And it doesn’t really matter how old you are and what kind of present it will be.
Best present you can buy if the stars are in your favor:
10. Sports/music events tickets
An experience like a sporting event or concert is the perfect gift if you are absolutely sure about the tastes of the man and the date of the upcoming event is relatively close. That’s something you can surely impress him.